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Beth's avatar
Jan 21Edited

We are the grandparents of now experiencing this ideology in the family. We were told (in a message) last year that our granddaughter (14) was now [gender neutral name] and would go by they/them. There has been no indication in her whole life of a struggle with identity. She is smart, healthy, neither a girly girl nor a tomboy. We have not been allowed to see her since. We voiced our concerns and that was enough to be considered toxic and harmful.

Since then her brother (10) has chosen a very female name to live by. That is all we know about that. He has always been fairly typical a boy - preferred sword play, cars, rough and tumble play, yet also was happy playing with Sylvanian figures and toys with his sister. He is a slightly built lad, with very long hair and has been allowed to wear his sister's cast off dresses if he chooses to, which he did from time to time. His favourite colour is pink, and he loves 'squishies'.

Home life - married parents, mother is a militant feminist, university educated, dad is fully supportive of women's rights and very smart. The kids have been 'homeschooled' and did have regular gatherings with other homeschoolers for education and fun, but that has largely (or totally) disappeared over the last couple of years. We know that the parents are strong advocates for all things LGBTQI+, very familiar and supportive of gender theory and believe gender is a social construct, and have taken the kids to drag story times.

Now I ask - what are the chances of an average family having two kids that are trans? We've been told that the kids ARE TRANS, that's who they are. Not confused, not choosing a different gender, just trans. How do kids come to these conclusions (unless they have been taught and groomed that way)?

We've been reminded that suicide rates in trans people are very high. This came from the parents as a warning that if we don't embrace this choice we are responsible for whatever may happen. Really? With no contact? And what have they told the kids about why they haven't seen us? I can only imagine and it wouldn't be nice. I know everybody says this, but we truly are not mean people, and reassured them that our disagreement with this ideology doesn't change our love for the kids.

We're struggling. And angry that this has all come about because of an theory with has no evidence to support it. We're very concerned for the welfare of the kids, and their parents. Thanks for this persepctive.

Cat Williamz's avatar

Excellent article. Well said. Here’s my tuppence worth 😎

https://disgruntled.substack.com/p/transagenda

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